Today I want to deal with another subject that grew out of a very sensitive conversation that I had with someone recently. As in my last post, I will not go into the situation because it was a very sensitive one and it could cause the person who talked to me harm even though I don't think anyone involved reads this blog. I am not sure why people want to talk to me but it seems that they do. (If I am fortunate, it is because people see the love of God come through me to them).
Let me use an example from my own life to illustrate my point. When I was married, I changed a lot.
Some of it was for the better - I was a financial train wreck waiting for a place to come off the tracks for many years of my life. As a matter of fact, some people who knew me back then thought I was crazy for going to law school because I was so irresponsible that they didn't think I could make it through. Eventually I changed over time and grew out of that which is a very good thing.
I also became a father. That was definitely a change for the better. When the movie, Courageous came out I watched it and my heart broke. I realized then that I did not know how to be a great father and I really wanted to be one. Now I don't think I am a bad dad but I definitely know I can improve. But being a dad for the first time definitely changed me in a good way.
But I also changed in some not good ways. I quit being myself because part of me seemed to always make my ex-wife mad. The Bible says that people who make peace with other people will be blessed so I always tried (most of the time unsuccessfully) to make peace with her. But in doing so, I lost touch with part of who I was. I was never really comfortable around her. I don't think that she was responsible for this. As a matter of fact, there are parts of me that I should have refused to change because they were really who I am.
As an aside, don't use this as an excuse to be mean or act inappropriately to anyone. I can hear some guy saying, "Well I just like a lot of girls. That's part of who I am so it's OK for me to date other girls while I am married to someone." NO I am not saying that. Quit being a jerk.
But what I am telling you is that you need to be true to who you really are. If you like football, that's OK as long as it doesn't rule your life. If you like romantic movies, that's OK as long as it doesn't rule your life. See it is important to stay true to yourself. Don't let people change you to the point that you don't even recognize you anymore. That's a mistake. Now I have decided to just be me. That doesn't mean that everyone has to like me. Some people probably don't but that's OK.
So I want to leave you with this. Stay true to who you are. Be you. Do the right thing even when it's not popular but be you.
That's Another Opinion of the Minion
Let me use an example from my own life to illustrate my point. When I was married, I changed a lot.
Some of it was for the better - I was a financial train wreck waiting for a place to come off the tracks for many years of my life. As a matter of fact, some people who knew me back then thought I was crazy for going to law school because I was so irresponsible that they didn't think I could make it through. Eventually I changed over time and grew out of that which is a very good thing.
I also became a father. That was definitely a change for the better. When the movie, Courageous came out I watched it and my heart broke. I realized then that I did not know how to be a great father and I really wanted to be one. Now I don't think I am a bad dad but I definitely know I can improve. But being a dad for the first time definitely changed me in a good way.
But I also changed in some not good ways. I quit being myself because part of me seemed to always make my ex-wife mad. The Bible says that people who make peace with other people will be blessed so I always tried (most of the time unsuccessfully) to make peace with her. But in doing so, I lost touch with part of who I was. I was never really comfortable around her. I don't think that she was responsible for this. As a matter of fact, there are parts of me that I should have refused to change because they were really who I am.
As an aside, don't use this as an excuse to be mean or act inappropriately to anyone. I can hear some guy saying, "Well I just like a lot of girls. That's part of who I am so it's OK for me to date other girls while I am married to someone." NO I am not saying that. Quit being a jerk.
But what I am telling you is that you need to be true to who you really are. If you like football, that's OK as long as it doesn't rule your life. If you like romantic movies, that's OK as long as it doesn't rule your life. See it is important to stay true to yourself. Don't let people change you to the point that you don't even recognize you anymore. That's a mistake. Now I have decided to just be me. That doesn't mean that everyone has to like me. Some people probably don't but that's OK.
So I want to leave you with this. Stay true to who you are. Be you. Do the right thing even when it's not popular but be you.
That's Another Opinion of the Minion
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